4 kind (but firm) ways to tell a man you're really not interested

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Spare his feelings by letting him down gently with our top tips...

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He might be charming, handsome and genuinely sweet, but you're still not attracted to him. Let's face it, there has to be chemistry for a relationship to go the distance, so if you're not feeling it you need to nip it in the bud.

But what should you say (and not say) if he's imagining marriage and babies in your future and you're imagining walking out the door for good? Take a look at our top four ways to tell a man that you're not interested without breaking the poor guy's heart for good...

1. "I appreciate your feelings for me, I just don't think I'm the right woman for you"

If he's looking to settle down and you're more interested in parties and climbing the career ladder, you might want to opt for this honest line. Honesty really is the best policy, so be prepared to explain your reasons without descending into clichés like "I'm not looking for a serious relationship" or "you deserve someone better than me".

2. "I enjoy your company, but don't feel that spark that we both need for this to work"

He might be the most interesting man alive, but if you don't fancy him it's probably not going to work. He might get defensive and try and ask you why you don't feel any chemistry - so it's crucial that you stick to your guns, stay calm and stress that chemistry isn't something that you can create. It's either there or it's not.

3. "This might not be easy for you to hear, but I don't think we have enough similar interests and goals to continue dating"

If you can tell he's really in to you, it might be worth recognising that he's going to find this conversation difficult. This way you're showing you appreciate his feelings and he won't be caught completely off-guard. If you really don't have anything in common, don't let him claim that listening to music and watching films are things that can hold you together - you need similar goals, values and hobbies to really make a relationship work in the long term.

4. "I have a lot of respect for you, which is why I wanted to speak to you face-to-face and not via email"

Don't be that person who breaks up with someone with a text or Facebook message. Show that you've got enough decency to speak to his face and hopefully he'll walk away with a high opinion of you. Perhaps when you accidentally bump into him at the supermarket it won't be mind-numbingly awkward...just awkward.

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